Often with uni comes the need to go long-distance with your relationship. It has a reputation for being hard and taking a lot of work, but it’s definitely doable. To help, we’ve compiled a list of handy long-distance relationship tips for uni students to make sure to stay connected, no matter the miles between.
1. Communicate, communicate, communicate
Our first long-distance relationship tip has to be communication – it’s key. It’s essential to sit down and discuss how you both plan to keep in contact. Ideally before you part ways.
Some people prefer texting throughout the day, others will value a longer, more personal phone or Facetime call in the evening. Once you’ve worked out a platform that works best for both of you, you’ll be set from the start.
2. Set boundaries
It’s also super important to try and create a rough schedule, or routine, for keeping in contact. At uni you’re often busy balancing a million things at a time, but it’s also important to yourself.
Trying to discuss differences in your separate schedules beforehand will be especially helpful when you’ve got a particularly packed day of lectures. If one of you knows you’ll be offline for a while, it’s best to let the other know. And if your partner will expect a little more frequent messaging, it’s great to discuss your boundaries and expectations in advance.
3. Visit each other!
One of the most obvious ones is to take a trip to your partner’s uni to visit them! Virtual conversations can only go so far, so try and make time to plan a trip whenever you can. Hopefully you can alternate who has to do the travelling each time. It’s only fair!
We all know at university, funds and time are quite limited. But if you can try and see each other fairly regularly, you’ll appreciate the time spent together in person a million times more.
4. Send them gifts
Taking the time to send your partner with a surprise gift, whether big or small, will be greatly appreciated. When can’t spend time together in person, a thoughtful token of affection is as best a substitute as possible.
Of course, you’ll know them best as to what they’d like the most. Flowers, chocolate, or even a letter (if you’re old-school) are a few great ideas though.
5. Take more pictures
They say a picture is worth a thousand words, and we couldn’t agree more. One of the main things that can make a long-distance relationship hard is feeling disconnected from your partner.
Texts and phone calls are great! But often sending photos and videos of where you are, what you’re up to, or even what you had for dinner that day can make things feel a little more personal.
6. Keep things creative
Another of our best long-distance relationship tips is to get creative with FaceTime. Beat the distance between you by keeping regular (this time digital) date nights alive and exciting.
We’re lucky to live in the golden age of modern technology, so getting a takeaway and watching a film together virtually is just one example of the ways you can keep things romantic.
7. Plan ahead
With long-distance relationships, it’s key to never say goodbye without already having a rough plan in place for when you’ll see each other again. Everyone’s busy, and you’ll have your own individual commitments, but saying goodbye is hard enough as it is when you live apart.
Having another trip, visit, or date scheduled for the future might (hopefully) ease the pain even just slightly.
8. Be honest when there’s an issue
Following on with another important ‘Don’t’: never wait to tell your partner when something’s wrong, bothering you, or needs to be discussed. If you’ve had a fight, or they’ve done something to upset or annoy you, it’s tempting to just sweep it under the rug.
Repressing issues – even when you think they’re minor – might work a little better when you’re together. But if you’re struggling with the distance, it’s best to be fully honest so things can get resolved. If not, you run the risk of letting a problem build up and create resentment that might just make the situation harder than it already is.
9. Balance your uni friendships equally
When you’re missing your partner, it’s so easy to prioritise them. Whether consciously or not, this might mean you’re spending hours on the phone, passing up nights out for a FaceTime or missing out on developing more friendships at uni.
It’s vital to work out a healthy balance between making time for your friends, and for your boyfriend or girlfriend. Making the most of your uni experience should be your priority, and your relationship should easily fit in alongside that.
10. Enjoy your uni experience!
Ultimately, you should be trying to see university as an opportunity for individual self-growth. As some of the best years of your life, there are so many different ways to have fun, learn and grow while you’re there.
Your partner will have the exact same chance, just a little while away. So, hard as the situation can be, trying to remember that you’re living your own separate lives (and that that’s a good thing!) is crucial.
So there we have it – your trusty guide of long-distance relationship tips to keep the spark alive when you’re apart. For more uni advice, make sure to check out Here’s how to cope with homesickness at university.