This article was written by Millie Ramm, a student writer based in Nottingham.
When you’re living with other people, be it at university or otherwise, it can be… frustrating. People have different schedules, different habits, and all of them suddenly affect you. What you thought was a fun quirk that your friend had, now means you have to hear them whistle whenever they shower at 3 am. To help survive this, one of the most important things to learn is how to tell your flatmates to be quiet at uni, and luckily for you, we’ve got some tips.

1. Just ask

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Sometimes, people aren’t actually aware of how noisy they are. If you have a flatmate that you’re relatively comfortable talking to, and they’re being a bit noisy, you can try just asking them. Head over to their room, knock on the door and just ask if they could turn the TV/music down, or lower their voices. A lot of the time, if you’re on good terms, this does the trick.

2. Post in the group chat 

If you’re not as comfy with your flatmates, or perhaps don’t want to directly call out one of your flatmates, or maybe you’re not even sure who is making the noise – the group chat is your hero. Every flat has one, from halls to third year, even MA and PhD students have flat group chats. Just pop a little message into the chat saying “Hey guys! Could whoever is INSERT ANNOYING NOISY THING HERE please keep it down a little? Thanks!”. And voila, problem solved. Or at least, the problem may be solved. If, after that, they still don’t shut up, keep reading for more tips.

3. Don’t wait too long 

As soon as your flatmate starts being too loud, do something about it. Otherwise, you’ll get all this pent up frustration, and what could be a simple WhatsApp message or chat in the hall turns into a passive-aggressive brawl between two housemates. Definitely worth avoiding. Talk now, you’ll thank us later.

4. Bring it up at a convenient and neutral time

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Whilst you shouldn’t wait too long to tell your flatmate that they’re being too loud, you also don’t want to bring it up at a poor time. For example, if you go to check on them and the reason they’re blasting My Chemical Romance at the top of their speaker volume is that their Nanna passed away, maybe don’t ask them to be quiet. Likewise, if you bring it up in an argument, that’s a sure-fire way to get them to be louder if anything.

5. Don’t be ridiculous

If you’re going to all the effort of complaining to your flatmate about their noise levels, make sure you’re being reasonable. Don’t tell them they were clattering the pans too late last night if ‘too late’ is 6 pm, or that on a Saturday night they and their friends were laughing together until 11 pm, and that’s not okay. You’re at university, you’re all adults, and whilst your schedules might clash, you’ve still all got to live and enjoy yourselves under one roof. So don’t be ridiculous.

6. Don’t involve other flatmates

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Unless both you and another flatmate have an issue, try to avoid ganging up on the noisy one. Even if there’s a few of you who agree, designate a person to speak up about it. Otherwise, you risk alienating the person you’re asking to change and that is not conducive to a positive outcome!

7. Sprinkle a little guilt

Rather than “I’m angry because you’re noisy”, try to approach this as “I’m not doing so well at uni or work because of the lack of sleep I’m getting… Could we try to keep the noise down after 11 pm?”. This turns it from being a ‘you’re doing something wrong’ to ‘I just need your help’, and people generally respond better to the latter.
Aminah Barnes
Aminah Barnes – Manchester Metropolitan University
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FAQs on Asking Flatmates to Be Quiet at Uni

The best approach is to speak politely and directly. Often, your flatmate may not realise they’re being loud. Let them know you’re struggling to sleep or study and kindly ask if they could keep the volume down — most people are happy to cooperate when approached respectfully.

If you don’t feel comfortable having a direct conversation, you can send a polite message in your flat’s group chat. This avoids putting anyone on the spot and can help raise the issue in a more neutral, non-confrontational way.

It’s best to speak up soon after the issue happens, but wait for a neutral time — like when you’re both relaxed and not in a rush. Avoid raising it during arguments or when emotions are high to keep the conversation constructive.

Use “I” statements to explain how the noise is affecting you, like “I’m finding it hard to concentrate.” This avoids sounding accusatory and makes it more likely your flatmate will understand and be willing to adjust their behaviour.

Try resolving it directly first. If it keeps happening and others are affected, discuss it as a group and nominate someone to speak on everyone’s behalf. If that still doesn’t work, speak to your accommodation rep or university support team for help.

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  • Aminah is a dedicated content expert and writer at Unifresher, bringing a unique blend of creativity and precision to her work. Her passion for crafting engaging content is complemented by a love for travelling, cooking, and exploring languages. With years spent living in cultural hubs like Barcelona, Sicily, and Rome, Aminah has gained a wealth of experiences that enrich her perspective. Now based back in her hometown of Manchester, she continues to immerse herself in the city's vibrant atmosphere. An enthusiastic Manchester United supporter, Aminah also enjoys delving into psychology and true crime in her spare time.

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